Dear Miss Annabelle,
My girlfriend says her last partner was able to make her squirt. How can I do this too?
Sincerely, Squirt Out of Ideas
Dear Squirt Out of Ideas,
It’s great that you’re looking to try new things with your partner, and squirting can be a great experience for the both of you! Especially if she has previously tried this and enjoyed it. It sounds like squirting isn’t very familiar to you, though, so let’s start simple.
Squirting is when, during the act of female climax, a clear to cloudy color fluid comes rushing out of her lady goods. As to what those fluids are, exactly? It looks like it is still in up in the air, with studies going either way on the subject. The fluid that comes out when a woman squirts comes out of the urethra, not the vaginal canal and the chemical set up of the “squirt” is close to urine, but has an added ingredient, Prostatic Specific Antigen. This comes from the Skene Glands.
The skene glands are located on the back of the vaginal wall near the lower part of the urethra near the g spot, and is similar to a man’s prostate. In addition to that, squirters and their partners report that the fluid tastes smells looks and feels nothing like urine.
When it comes to squirting, most women have the ability to ejaculate. Not everyone can, although it sounds like your lady is one of those people who can! Everyone has a different physical set up, so some women’s bodies might not be able to produce the fluid fast enough or in enough volume. Also, it might not happen during orgasm; some women have found that they squirt before or after orgasm.
The only difference “squirting” makes with orgasms in terms of quality is if you experience a wet or dry orgasm. Some women prefer a wet and other a dry orgasm, but both can be equally intense!
There are plenty of things to help increase the chances of squirting, or even to enhance the ability to do so!
1. First, warm up.
Before anything else, you’ll want to make sure that your partner empties their bladder beforehand, since G Spot stimulation can create a sensation of fullness and pressure. Plenty of foreplay is very helpful. She needs to be tingly and in the moment, so don’t hesitate to do whatever drives her wild! She also needs to be relaxed and comfortable. So pick a position where she is comfortable yet very stimulated.
2. Lube is always handy.
3. Don’t just focus on just the g-spot!
4. Don’t try to force it.
Don’t keep pushing and stressing yourself out. One thing that may stop a person from squirting is if they tighten their PC muscles when they are about to orgasm. If that happens, try and do the opposite. If you feel like you are going to pee, don’t be afraid because if you empty your bladder beforehand, it will not be pee. Relax and push out, like you are bearing down. Don’t try and force it and don’t be frustrated if it does not happen right away. For any part of our body to produce fluid, we need to be hydrated so drink water as well!
As far as exactly what to do to stimulate the G Spot, start by just using a finger or two. Insert them, then curl them upwards in a “come hither” motion, rubbing against the front wall of the vagina. Or, if a toy is preferred, use one that either has a curve or a bulbous head and do the same thing, rubbing against the front wall of the vagina.
Rub in a consistent and powerful manner, but not so much that it begins to hurt. Don’t go too fast or too hard so that it makes everything uncomfortable! If desired, add some clitoral stimulation as well! After a while, the internal stimulation may seem like too much or it feels like she has to pee- but keep going! Relax and try not to tighten the PC muscles.